There are so many kinks out there that are different, and it must be something you must have asked yourself at least once in your life. Have you explored your kink, or is it something you think about but dare not investigate any further? I think everything is worth trying at least once, maybe even twice, depending on your first experience.

I have had many conversations with friends about sex, it seems to be a very taboo subject, and I cannot understand why; I don't want the details of your sex life, but we all have sex, don't we? So many women have met the "loveliest guy " every, he ticks all the boxes except the sex is boring as hell, which in turn will always affect the "perfect" relationship.

You can claim sex plays a small part in a relationship, but you are only lying to yourself. There will be animosity from both partners at some point. I believe it has a lot to do with communication and not exploring your fantasies; I am always incredibly open about this.

If you do not talk about your wants and desires, your partner will never know, and you will always be disappointed. Explore your kink together.

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When I was younger, I had not explored my fantasies, and my sex life was boring. I hated this as I considered myself to be very sexual, but all my sexual experiences were dull and unmemorable. I have always had a fascination with the darker side of sex; once I started exploring it, I found it intriguing and realized it was something I wanted to try. In the beginning, it was strange to me, and I often thought I needed to get out of this scene, but thankfully there was a part of me that needed to stay and discover more.

My kink is in the BDSM realm; I also realized what role I identified with; I am a switch. I can therefore be Dominant or submissive depending on my partner and what I want.

Over the last few years, I was Dominant in my partnership; this has, however, changed with my new playmate and our dynamic. I enjoy the fact that he is Dominant, and being submissive has helped me understand how important submission is in any BDSM dynamic.

Sex is an integral part of life, and who you are, you are allowed to enjoy it and want more of it; we are no longer in the stone ages where we only had sex to reproduce. You need to find what works for you sexually and explore it, and you need to be you and explore all your sexual wants and desires. You can not be ashamed or shy away from what your sexual needs and desires are. We all have them; it's time you embrace it and share it with your partner.

This will open a new world to you and your partner.