Rough sex can be hot as hell as long as you know what you are doing and where your partner's limits and boundaries are. When it comes to rough sex, we all have different pain thresholds and levels of discomfort that we can handle, but the one thing that should always be present is consent.

What is Rough Sex?

Rough sex can mean different things to different people with various types of play involved; however, the one constant is that it is rough. Rough sex can include anything from hair pulling, slapping, bondage, impact play, and definitely some elements of CNC like pinning your partner down or forcing them into positions.

Before bringing rough sex into your session, first, discuss it openly with your partner. If you are nervous about just bringing it up, maybe send them a porn clip that you find to be a turn-on to initiate the discussion. Discuss why you find it arousing and what kind of things you would like to try; there should be no shame in talking about your fantasies or desires.

If you aren't into BDSM or kink and this is a new avenue for you and your partner, start off with a pre-care session. So basically, just be affectionate and gentle with each other beforehand. Don't just start with rough sex, especially if this is something new, as it can create a sense of confusion and disconnect afterward if you aren't prepared.

Decide on what kind of things you want to try during rough sex; below are some ideas for the inexperienced.

  • Blindfolding
  • Hair Pulling
  • Slapping of the ass or thighs, I would not suggest face slapping if you are new to this.
  • Over the knee spanking
  • Exgressive dirty talk
  • Bondage or restraining your partner with your hands

Always check in with your partner during rough sex; this way, you will see if your partner has dissociated from the scene. Unfortunately, some people can be triggered during certain activities, so by constantly checking in on them, you can make sure that you both are enjoying it.

Aftercare is a must, regardless if you are kinky or if this is your first time trying out rough play. Aftercare will help bound partners and ground each other afterward, and this is when you reconnect. Talk about what you enjoyed and what you don't want to try again; also, have your favorite foods, drinks, and shows on hand so that you can cuddle and bond.