Cucking is a fetish or a kink where a cuckold or cuckquean is turned on by watching their partner have sex with someone else. It falls under the BDSM umbrella as there are forms of domination/ submission, including humiliation or degradation.

Cucking is a popular fantasy among couples, and the term is searched for daily worldwide; it is also a popular category on porn sites. There are several terms involved with cucking; like cuckold, bull, and cuckquean.

Cuckquean is usually a woman that would be "forced" to watch their partner have sex with another person. Their partner could be having sex with the Bull. Cuckqueans typically identify as submissive females.

A cuckold is usually a man that watches his "hotwife" have sex with a Bull. The Bull will usually degrade the Cuckold and the size of his penis while having rough sex with the Cuckold's "Hotwife."  Cuckolds typically identify as submissive males.

Bull is usually the outside partner brought into this dynamic to have sex with the partner. A Bull could be male or female; the idea of the Bull is that they are considered to be a better version of the Cuckold or Cuckquean, younger, sexy, and more virile/fertile.

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Cucking is an excellent humiliation or degradation fantasy for many submissives. However, it might not always be accurate in reality.

Many couples out there have tried cucking, but cucking can ruin a relationship and devastate a partner. There are many horror stories out there where couples enjoyed the thought of cucking, and when they turned their fantasy into reality, it ruined their marriage or relationship.

Cucking needs consent first and foremost, and this needs to be discussed and planned correctly. Discuss the need and desire of a cucking scene; once boundaries have been established, take your time looking for a Bull. Both partners need to agree on the Bull and need to get to know the Bull. Chat online with your potential Bull's and once you have established a bond, arrange to meet in person, only a meeting at first over coffee or at a restaurant.

In any situation where another person comes into a relationship, all parties need to agree and be comfortable with each other and what they want out of the scene. Take it slow and make sure this is something you want; there is nothing wrong with having a fantasy and leaving it as a fantasy. Cucking could change your relationship forever or ruin it.

Ensure everyone is tested for STIs and any other contagious diseases and share the results; also, make sure always to use protection with a third party.