A spreader bar is one of the most popular BDSM accessories for kinksters; it has several uses and can be used in a variety of different positions.

What is a spreader bar well? As the term seemingly defines itself, it's a bar used to spread limbs. It is usually a metal or wooden bar with either cuffs or attachment links so that you can restrain a partner by their arms, wrists, ankles, or knees. The spreader bar is often used in bondage; however, the possibilities are endless with a modular spreader bar that has several tie points.

A spreader bar will not only assist with complete submission but also helps a Dom maintain dominance during a scene.

As much fun as you can have with a spreader bar, it is essential to have your partner's safety in mind at all times. You must be able to release your partner quickly and easily when using a spreader bar; your partner might have difficulty breathing, severe cramps, or have a panic attack. So it's crucial to understand your spreader bar and how it works. Most spreader bars have links that can easily detach as long as your partner isn't being suspended with the spreader bar.

Apart from safety, it is of utmost importance to discuss limits and boundaries, and you must ALWAYS have a safeword when playing. If you are using other accessories like ball gags, make sure your partner has a squeaky toy or something noisy they can drop to let you know if you need to slow down or stop. It is always important to check in with your partner during play to make sure they are still enjoying the scene.

If you are using the spreader bar for activities outside of play, you will need to consider other risks involved; if your partner's arms are restained in a spreader bar, what activities are they willing to perform, and in which areas of your home. If your partner is to fall while being tied to a spreader bar, not only can they not protect themselves from the fall but are more likely to hurt themselves or, worse, break or sprain a limb.

There are many ways you can incorporate different accessories with the spreader bar. There are several types of collars with attachments available to connect a collar to the spreader bar. You can also tie your partner's ankles and wrists on the same bar using standing or kneeling positions.

If you are new to spreader bars, start off with easy positions for a set duration of time, this will assist the person in the spreader bar to get used to the feel and limitations of the spreader bar. The spreader bar will put your partner in a submissive space, and they will feel very vulnerable in certain positions. Aftercare is a must. This way, you can massage the limbs that were tied up, increasing blood flow and any soreness from the spreader bar.